The Owlie could play Legos for hours. He sneaks into RedDog’s room when I’m not looking. Then the house gets very, very quiet. It’s only when I go looking that I find him in there building (and unbuilding) Legos.
I love this picture I took of him playing with a ship his brother built for him, but that tiny hand doesn’t look so little anymore. He’s growing and changing.
A few weeks ago I had a parent/teacher conference at the preschool. It was Spring Break so every parent had a conference. At Owlie’s conference the teacher had many good things to say about my boy. He cuts well with scissors. He holds his pencil correctly. He loves to participate in imaginary play. He’s kind to all the other boys and girls.
And then she dropped the bomb.
“We don’t think he’s ready to move on to the four year old class next year.”
When I asked why that judgment had been made, the reasons I got were: a) He doesn’t participate when we have singing and dancing during circle time. b) He doesn’t like task oriented activities like coloring. c) He talks more to the adults than the other kids.
I let the teacher know I would discuss it with my husband and get back to her.
After a weekend of discussion and prayer (yes, we even make preschool decisions based on prayer), we both felt it was best for Owlie to move on with his peers.
This is what we know: he loves singing and dancing at our house. Maybe it’s the teachers who make him uncomfortable? He doesn’t like coloring very much. At all. So what. And he is the last child in a house full of big people. He’s used to talking to big people. I’m totally okay with that.
He loves school. He talks about it a lot. He has friends there. He’s doing well (evidenced by the fact that we’ve never heard a word otherwise in the entire time he’s been at the school.)
We decided that we’d rather make a decision about postponing his kindergarten start date next year after the 4’s class. To make that kind of decision now when he’s only 3 would be to try to predict the future.
Tell me, have you held a child back in school? If so, what were your reasons?