This picture makes me happy and sad at the same time. Happy, because I just want to kiss all over that sweet little freckly, white face. Sad, because two seconds before I took this picture I asked my Ollie, “Did you sneak some Oreos?” His quick and confident reply was, “No Momma. I did not.”
It’s funny, right? Funny that he was so sure his truth would be believed even though the evidence was right there on his face.
I can remember the time each of my four children first lied to me. It broke my heart. Still does.
The virtue of honesty is paramount to me. I try to be honest in my dealings with others. My Hubby and I have worked tirelessly to instill this virtue in our children. I have a quote framed in our home that says “Honesty is the first chapter in the book of life.” I believe it.
Here’s the truth though: my kids still lie. Every single one of them.
Why do kids think they can lie and get away with it? I wish I knew the answer to that question. I tell my kids all the time, it is better to tell the truth and accept whatever consequence comes than to lie and have that lie grow out of control, resulting in more trouble, hurt feelings, additional bad consequences, etc. in the future.
I’ve also told my kids that no matter how well they think they’ve deceived me, us, or someone else, THE TRUTH WILL ALWAYS BE DISCOVERED EVENTUALLY. Experiences in our home have supported this fact time and time again. Sometimes I feel like a master sleuth when I’ve caught my kids in a lie. I raise my hands in the air like Rocky and shout VICTORY because I could totally read their bluff.
Then I slump my head in shame and just feel like a big loser because I remember that they lied to me.
As a parent I want to raise children who are confident, strong, faithful, loving, and have integrity. I believe by doing so, I will send them into the world prepared to serve others and make a difference.
I’m ready to crack down on lying. Give me your best suggestions on how to teach honesty in the home.
I need help. And that’s no lie.